Library section · 4 articles
Relationships, closeness and boundaries
Why boundaries can disappear in a conversation, how silence activates feared loss, and how to separate present relationships from older responses.
- 01Relationships and boundaries · part 1Why it is hard to say no when you do not want to agreeBefore the conversation you know you want to refuse. During it, you smile and agree. How the automatic yes arrives before choice.9 min readRead →
- 02Relationships and boundaries · part 2Why silence from someone close can cause such intense anxietySomeone close is silent, and internally the relationship has already ended. How one pause connects with the past and an imagined future.9 min readRead →
- 03Relationships and boundaries · part 3How to distinguish a real relationship problem from an old reactionA strong emotion proves neither that you must leave nor that you should stay. How to get an answer from the relationship that exists today.9 min readRead →
- 04Relationships, closeness and boundariesWhy closeness can feel frightening precisely when it becomes realYou wanted closeness while it was distant. Once it became real, flaws, coldness and an urge to disappear arrived instead.10 min readRead →
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